Tag: ohmylove

New Relationships, New Boundaries

We’re all moved in! And we’re all super excited about it. I’ve been thinking though, of what I might share about this process.  What have we learned and what has made moving in as a pod different from when I moved in with Ben…

Focusing on Love

I noticed that I’d written two other “focusing on” titles, one for work and one for fitness.  I thought I might as well round out the unintentional series with a few thoughts on finding focus in love. One of the major mental shifts in the…

What Commitment means when you’re Polyamorous

With Valentine’s day around the corner I wanted to put something out there: Polyamory is the belief that we can love more than one person. There’s no reason why the love you give to multiple people has to be any different than the fairy…

What makes Polyamory work for Us

None of us are prone to jealousy and all of us understand our responsibility to cope with jealousy in a healthy way. Not being prone to jealousy doesn’t mean we’ll never look at our spouses with their boyfriend or girlfriend and think it might be nice…

What Polyamory means to Us

First and foremost: who are we? I am Carmen, and my husband is Ben. Maggie is my best friend turned girlfriend, and Tom is her husband. Tom and I are dating, as are Maggie and Ben. Confused yet, so were we! Polyamory is, at…

Accidentally Polyamorous

The very first question I get when I reveal to people that my husband and I are dating another married couple is….”How on earth does something like that develop!?” It’s a fair question, I mean when you’re married you aren’t exactly supposed to be…