Tag: relationship

Polyamory and Commitment

When it comes to talking about polyamory and commitment, we’re designing our forever.

It’s been an Amazing Year

Happy Anniversary to the Pod! I love anniversaries. Honestly I love any excuse to celebrate and focus on the people I love just because I love them. Anniversaries, birthdays, Valentine’s Day… I’m a sucker for it all. I know lots of people kind of…

“Date Night” in the Polyamorous Life

There’s many conventions of dating that can change or shift when in a polyamorous relationship.  Deciding to engage in a polyamorous relationship hasn’t taken away our favourite conventions from our days of monogamy but it has affected exactly what those conventions look like. For…

Maggie: My Best Friend

This month I have enjoyed telling our love stories. From explaining what it means to me to call Ben my high school sweetheart to the personal growth I’ve found with Tom as my partner in adventure – it’s truly been a joy to reflect…

Ben: My High School Sweetheart

Life has changed us, but our love remains constant. That’s what I mean when I say we are high school sweethearts.

Unsolicited Relationship Advice

  I know I grew up lucky, in some (ahem, many) ways. Many of my friend’s parents were divorced, and they moved between two separate homes.  My parents were together.  Perhaps even luckier for me, my parents were happy to be together. Parental yelling…

Polyamory and Staying True to Myself

I realized the other day that delving into this polyamorous lifestyle has expanded my world and made me feel more complete in a few ways.  I think it’s true for a lot of people that even when they have different interests than their partner,…

The Art of Balancing Yourself with those you Love

I think it’s easy to do things with our partners because they make us feel safe.  That’s why they became our partners, right? It’s part of loving each other to offer comfort and support to each other, and it’s easy to want to bring that comfort and support with you on new adventures.  In a world where I have three partners who I enjoy spending time and trying new things with I have found the importance of remembering who I am when I’m on my own.

Focusing on Love

I noticed that I’d written two other “focusing on” titles, one for work and one for fitness.  I thought I might as well round out the unintentional series with a few thoughts on finding focus in love. One of the major mental shifts in the…

What Commitment means when you’re Polyamorous

With Valentine’s day around the corner I wanted to put something out there: Polyamory is the belief that we can love more than one person. There’s no reason why the love you give to multiple people has to be any different than the fairy…

What makes Polyamory work for Us

None of us are prone to jealousy and all of us understand our responsibility to cope with jealousy in a healthy way. Not being prone to jealousy doesn’t mean we’ll never look at our spouses with their boyfriend or girlfriend and think it might be nice…

What Polyamory means to Us

First and foremost: who are we? I am Carmen, and my husband is Ben. Maggie is my best friend turned girlfriend, and Tom is her husband. Tom and I are dating, as are Maggie and Ben. Confused yet, so were we! Polyamory is, at…